Where is "Class" Today?

I think being classy in the sense you are talking about is in the same realm of things such as the distinction between a woman and a Lady.

The woman tries to draw attention to herself and is self-absorbed and self-oriented in a way that is brash and somewhat callous. This does not mean it is wrong, just that in certain circumstances it is not right.

The Lady is much more powerful and often a lot more subtle. She also draws attention to herself but does not outwardly relish it, nor does she use her enormous power as a Lady to knowingly do or be involved in harm. The Lady may well know how to be a woman when the occasion calls for it, but she is not a woman when it is the correct time to a Lady.

As a rule, most men will choose to marry and have children if possible with a Lady over a women every time. If they have the chance to choose at all.

The Lady need never worry that a woman is real competition to her.

The question of class versus non-class can thus be summed up in at least way as being like Lady/woman and man/Gentleman.

No one is perfect. Thus, if a Lady slips up, take care not to too quickly or harshly judge her.

I hope this is to the point of what you are wanting to discuss WRD.

The quintessential epitome of class for me was Audrey Hepburn and Cary Grant, with that perfect symmetry and balance of acquired character, style, grace and dignity. Character itself is perhaps defined by the revelation of moral purpose, exposing the quality of things one chooses or avoids.

However, I must confess and do agree I was hard pushed myself to identify the same qualities exemplified in others today.